Advocating for yourself
As you are going through the chain of command, trying to get what you need, remember a few helpful hints when advocating for yourself.
Most of all, remember that you have a right to ask for help.
- DON'T feel like you are bothering people.
- DON'T hesitate to ask for help.
- DON'T think that you have no control.
- DON'T think that you have to go through this by yourself.
- DON'T think it's too late.
- DON'T start without thinking things through.
- DON'T use sarcasm or degrading language.
- DON'T swear or name call.
- DON'T prejudge others.
- DON'T give up.
- DO know that you have a right to ask for help.
- DO ask for help from an adult that you trust (your guardian ad litem, life skills caseworker, counselor, mentor, advocate, foster parent, or friend).
- DO know that you have control over some things, even though it feels like everyone else has control. You can control:
- Who you ask to help you
- Using the chain of command
- Speaking your truths
- DO be clear about:
- What's happening
- What's needed
- How you feel
- DO brainstorm different solutions and backup plans.
- DO be straightforward and truthful.
- DO be ready to negotiate.